My friends know that my number one thing is loyalty. If you can’t say it to my face, don’t say it behind my back. I will take an ugly truth much better than a pretty lie. Because all lies come to light, the truth eventually comes out, and instead of it just being ugly, it is also now tainted. Trust is the hardest thing to regain. Whereas if it’s something you had enough integrity to tell me to my face, it means you not only respect me, but you trust that I respect you enough to hear what you have to say.
I am selective of my friends. They are aware of this. But I can say without a doubt that my circle will always have my back. That does not mean they always agree, it does not mean they can’t tell me I’m being a dumb ass or that they have to view things the way I do. It means they know they can tell me they disagree and know it’s not going to ruin our friendship. It means that even if I’m being a dumb ass they know they can say it straight to my face and I will take what they say and think about it. It means that even after they tell me, and I have thought about it, they will support me in whatever decision I make in the end.
Loyalty is not blind obedience. Loyalty is trust, honesty, respect, integrity, support. It is having my back whether I witness it or not. It means being real and honest and true, and it’s not hard to do because they have a moral code that meshes with my own. Loyalty is sincere and steadfast. It is a bond that is unbreakable. Which means that if I come to you and you tell me what I don’t want to hear, I will still hear it and we will be okay. It means you aren’t going around behind my back and saying anything, true or not, that you haven’t had the fortitude to tell me straight up. It means a river of trust between us that is ever flowing.
And for those incapable of being loyal… well, I don’t have time for them. Life is too short to suffer fake friends. You don’t deserve me, and I do not deserve you. And that is the awesome part of being a fully grown woman who is capable of making her own decisions… I am fully qualified to decide upon the people I allow in my life. I don’t expect perfection, but I do expect my friends to be real.